AS THE well-known song goes: ‘If you’re looking for a way out, I won’t stand in your way…’

Sadly, it’s usually not that easy when it comes to separating or divorcing. Most relationships come with too much baggage to just walk away, which is why it’s important to seek professional legal advice at an early stage.

The earlier, the better, really, so that you have a clear picture of what the process involves, your rights, and the options open to you.

One of the things that people worry about is the cost of going through the legal proceedings, which is why Harrowells Solicitors offer a free, 30-minute consultation with one of their experts so that you can ask the questions you need answers to, and they can give you the information you need to move forward.

A consultation doesn’t mean that you must go ahead with a separation, but it will provide you with the facts that you need to make an informed decision.

Ask any divorced friend or colleague to sum up their divorce, and you will get a myriad of explanations varying from the surprisingly amicable to the downright hostile. One friend summed it up as: “The man virtually always ends up financially better off in the long term, but the woman ends up with a better relationship with the family.”

But that is just her experience of her circumstance. Everyone’s divorce will be different, and it’s important that you get the right information for your own, individual situation.

Lucy Phipps, partner and head of the Family Law Department with Harrowells, along with other members of her team, writes a regular blog about the myths and truths, and advises on all aspects of divorce. She warns against believing what you might read in the newspapers where the story is often sensationalised and may not reflect all the facts.

She debunks common myths such as ‘Quickie Divorces’ (no such thing); ‘The mother always gets the children’ (not necessarily – the outcome has to be what’s best for the child); ‘All divorce cases end up in court’ (actually, most cases are resolved without the need for a Court application).

So, you can see why you need to speak to a family law professional who will listen to the facts about your situation without judgement, and with expert knowledge of how the law works, as well as the experience of having dealt with many other individual cases.

Harrowells is offering free, 30-minute Family Law ‘drop in’ consultations, where no appointment is necessary, on Friday, November 2, between 9.30-4.30, at their Thirsk office in Finkle Street. Alternatively, if you can’t make that date, you can book a free, 30-minute initial meeting at a time to suit you, at any of Harrowells’ offices, including at Thirsk, and nearby Easingwold, by calling 01845 522278 or 01347 821234


Thirsk, Easingwold, Haxby, Clifton Moor, York and Pocklington

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