Ask the expert

My daughter’s gone to university, and I miss her terribly. What can I do to stop myself feeling so sad about her not living at home anymore?

Clinical psychologist Dr Katharine Ayivor, of SpanLife Psychology, says: ‘‘First, your sadness is normal and you’re definitely not alone in how you’re feeling. Many parents experience this sense of loss at such major transition points in the family life cycle.

‘‘It will take some time for you to adjust to your new life situation.

Acknowledging your feelings and reaching out for support is a good thing, and ringing your daughter all the time won’t help your adjustment in the long run.

‘‘This could be a great time to focus more on yourself, spending time on things you enjoy. Try scheduling in some of these things daily, and maybe ask a friend to join you. Engaging in enjoyable pastimes will give you something positive to look forward to each day. These positive feelings are great for combating low mood.

‘‘Talk to friends and family, especially those who’ve experienced a child leaving home. Sharing your experiences and feelings may help you feel more hopeful about the future and prevent you feeling isolated.

‘‘Be patient, and have realistic expectations – you’ve had your daughter at home for 18 years, it’ll take some time for you to get used to this change.

‘‘If your feelings worsen or you find it difficult to cope, consider getting some help maybe through counselling or psychological therapy.’’